I was texting one of my friends today and we were trying to plan a time to get together because we hadn’t seen each other since last summer.
He was suggesting we get a group together and go to the beach and hang out one day whenever he has work off. I had mentioned that if possible I would like one on one time first because I tend to be quiet when in big groups and I knew I wouldn’t talk to him if there was a lot of people ( I have what would be to some people a “weakness” and I acknowledge that).
Anyway – I told him that it wasn’t that I couldn’t be outgoing, but that I just choose not to be most of the time.
He responded with “…how do you live?”
How do I live?
At first I laughed at this. How do I live? What, do I have some sort of disease?
And then I was kind of frustrated with this question. How do I live?
Like is being an introvert such a bad thing?
Am I not able to experience life because of it?
Are introverts so pathetic and boring that people see us as dead animals on the side of the road?
How do we live?
I know my friend didn’t mean it in a mean way, but it was kind of annoying. I know that there are some things I do miss out on because I am an introvert, but that who is I am.
I don’t always have to be the one actively involved in a game, or a sport, or whatever to be having fun. Sometimes for an introvert, just watching is fun enough. Some people don’t get that. They think that unless we are actively involved, we aren’t having fun.
How do I live?
I live my life the way I live my life. I have days where I am super happy and super outgoing all day long. Sometimes I go to big events or dances and I am super outgoing and crazy. Other times I go to big events and I don’t talk to anyone, and I am super quiet and uncomfortable.
Do I wish I was more outgoing? Yeah, sometimes. But I’m not. And I don’t feel that I need to pretend to be outgoing just to find someone (we got on the topic of dating – my friend and I).
I do believe though that I need someone who is a little more social than I am. Someone to help get me out and stay active and stuff. Someone who helps me to get out of my comfort zone now and then.
Do you know someone who is an introvert? How do they live?
Are you an introvert? What comments have you heard or received about being an introvert?
I am both shy and an introvert. I like being alone but I also like being with people. I enjoy teaching groups and being in front of people but I also get quiet when in big groups. Call it what you want, but that’s who I am. Whatever the actual word is.